Dear Friend, The starting point of mental toughness is genuine self-awareness. To the serious student, there is only one real book to study: the manuscript that you, yourself, are. Knowing yourself means understanding where your negative emotions come from. THE SOURCE OF ALL NEGATIVE EMOTIONS If you observe yourself carefully, you will see that all your negative emotions come from one source: not getting what you want. Anger is desire contaminated by helplessness. Fear is a desire for the future contaminated by helplessness. Sadness is rage at being attached to a desire we cannot fulfill. Grief is extreme sadness; disappointment is a milder form of grief. In fact, all negative emotions are a variation of this theme. This is why many people feel stressed out these days: they are not taking their desires seriously enough. They say things like, "My job doesn't matter to me. I'm just going to get a job that pays the bills." Then they spend 8 hours a day doing things they don't want to do. This is a recipe for feeling negatively all the time, and it is definitely not for you. LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE Now that you know how your emotions work, you can use this knowledge to live your best life. If all negative emotions come from NOT getting what you want, I suggest you arrange your life so you get what you want as often as possible. WHAT DO YOU WANT? First, write down what you want. Be specific. If you want to make more money, write down how much. If want a promotion, describe the job you want in detail. If you want to improve a relationship, record exactly how you want to change it. This is called goal-setting, and most people never get beyond this step. In fact, only 3% of the population has clear, written goals with an action plan to achieve them displayed in their home. And, it is the top 3%, at least in financial terms. Most people do not set goals because they fear failure. This is natural. However, the only way to guarantee failure in your life is to do nothing. The wonderful thing about goal-setting is that it mobilizes your conscious and unconscious energies towards your objectives. I urge you to write down at least 3 goals that are important to you. Then, promise yourself that you will take action towards them within 7 days. Next week, I will talk to you about the next stage of manifesting your desires. Your friend, Lisa p.s. If you are still interested in signing up for my four week private, intensive online course, "Catapult Yourself to Success Using Mental Toughness" next month, we still have 3 spots left. The course will run from May 9 - June 6, and in it you will receive personalized coaching from me so you can take yourself to the next level of personal success. The entire course is done via email, and you can do it at your own convenience. It will only take 2-3 hours a week and is completely guaranteed by me. The details are here: www.lisabrown.ca/page/course2 Lisa Brown is a professional speaker, author, and coach who helps people realize their deepest aspirations through mental toughness. Brown Performance Institute
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