Millions of men anxiously dread the approach of Valentines Day, reluctant to shop because they havent a clue about what will really please their woman. Many women believe that it takes the romance away if you tell him exactly what you want. Then she becomes disappointed and resentful when he fails to read her mind and turns up with a last minute less-than-perfect gift offering.

Men are results-oriented, explains Barbara Wright Abernathy, founder of the Venus On Top Society, the social network for take-charge women and supportive men. They love having a specific mission to fulfill and they feel happy and successful when they accomplish their mission. Abernathy says a woman should think like a queen sending her knight on a quest. Whats more romantic than that?

As more women become better educated and out-earn their husbands, some couples are making a conscious decision for the woman to be the leader in the household and the man her helpmate. Few women and men are aware that the female led relationship is a viable alternative for those whose temperaments dont fit traditional marriage roles. The Venus on Top Society is there to discuss and explore this lifestyle option.

Women who want to have a happy Valentines Day can take a cue from the way Society members celebrate Venus On Top Week every year, February 7 13, the week before Valentines Day. The Venus on Top Society offers a free Venus On Top Week Celebration Kit, a customizable Gift Checklist Certificate and Instruction Sheet, which can be downloaded at http://www.VenusOnTop.com

The Celebration Kit includes the official Venus On Top Society Gift Checklist Certificate to print out on parchment or colored paper. It has a list of suggested activities, such as a shopping trip or a foot massage, along with blanks where the woman writes in her own most desired gifts or tasks. The accompanying Instruction Sheet gives helpful tips for each partner on how to use the Checklist to get the most fun out of Venus On Top Week.

Does filling out the Gift Checklist take away the element of surprise that most women desire? Not at all. The Instruction Sheet suggests that the woman check off three to seven choices. She wont know which one he picks, so she will still be surprised. And he can surprise her even more by doing more than one item.

By presenting his sweetheart with the Gift Checklist Certificate, a man can avoid the headache of not knowing what she wants. A smart woman sets the stage for a wonderful Valentines Day by making sure he knows just what will please her, then showering her knight with appreciation for fulfilling his mission.