This week I want to focus on falling into what I call the, "I'll be happy trap."

Let me explain: You're lonely and in a dating rut. You keep telling yourself over and over, "I'll be so happy when I find a new girlfriend." In the mean time, you're so depressed waiting for this girl to come into your life and change your life for the better.

Well, finally this dream girl comes into your life. Initially, things go pretty well and you experience happiness in this relationship (this is quite common when you first start dating and you're hitting it off).

So, you're dating for awhile and you still feel like something is missing in your life. You're not feeling happy, as you would like. You thought by having someone special come into your life would make you feel like a new person and happy. You might even be tempted to look for another woman who can make you happier.

So, what's wrong with this picture? The reason is so simple. You just can't look for things outside of ourselves to make us happy. Happiness is an inside-out experience. You are responsible for your own happiness.

Don't depend on someone or any material things to bring you happiness. If you adopt this belief and attitude, you will be on a never-ending treadmill for the rest of your life.

Let me end this article with this thought for you to remember: Life is a journey, not a destination. Go after all those single women you desire, but enjoy the trip. Don't get caught up in the trip of waiting for someone to make you happy.