"They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel." Carl W. Buechner The Five-Minute Miracle works in any type of relationship - relatives, spouse, children, colleagues, friends - you name it. The premise is simple. Here's how it works: 1. Choose a relationship that you know needs some work. 2. For five minutes give that person your total attention. What does that mean? a. Listen only to them: ignore your own thoughts, don't worry about your response, just listen b. See them as they are: don't project traits or qualities onto them, simply see them as they are right then c. Make eye contact: use touch where appropriate, communicate with your body language remembering that ninety percent of communication is non-verbal. Each and every day, use the five-minute miracle within one of your relationships. You may find it hard to be that focused (it's not easy) which is why we only do it for five minutes. I guarantee though that by doing this focused exercise you will learn A LOT about communication that will affect you outside of your designated "Five-Minute Miracle " times. Your Assignment Choose someone whom you want to improve your communications with and practice the Five-Minute Miracle. |
